Life schemes for which you will never meet a man

Have you noticed how many wonderful women can not build your personal happiness? Athlete, Komsomol, clever-beautiful - and one. And this is not uncommon. When you see such a woman, you wonder: what else do these men need ?! What makes beautiful women lonely? Many of them raised children, built a successful career. But personal life does not add up. Our expert will tell about the main punctures of women on the way to marriage.
Julia Lanske - certified matchmaker, love-coach, expert and innovator in building relationships with successful men:
Julia Lanske

- Every morning, Olga, having fun singing, prepares her breakfast, puts on a stylish blouse with a skirt and on high heels hurries to work. There she is the soul of the collective: she will always help with advice, will not refuse the request. An excellent specialist, everything in her hands is going on. As a woman battery, Olya charges everyone with positive energy. But in the evening Olga is not in a hurry to go home.She goes around the supermarkets, looking at the mirrored windows, calling her friends and relatives, walking slowly through the streets ... In general, how can she delay the moment of an unpleasant meeting with him at home. And his name is loneliness.

In this article I will talk about the five major mistakes of women that prevent them from finding happiness in their personal lives. And how to finally break the vicious circle of their failures.

Changeling family

The first mistake completely denies the quality of the female as weakness. The roots of this problem come from the family model, where the mother was the main one or raised a girl without a father. This translates into the fact that the girl has absorbed the importance of female power, is not at all familiar with male psychology, does not understand the role of a man both in the family and in the relationship as a whole. Therefore, she does not know how to communicate with men, pushes them away with her strong kind.

Why is it dangerous

A woman considers her behavior to be right, sincerely does not understand why change. It is hard for her to overcome her inner “general in a skirt”. As a result, she can not build a relationship. Even if she finds a man, she is clearly weaker than her - and this is a failed family scenario. In addition, the model of the family-shifter tends to be inherited by children.

How to break a vicious circle

In any situation, try to remain soft, feminine. Let the men conquer peaks, with their foreheads break the path to the world for their family. A woman must remain a woman. Avoid categorical and directives in communication, look for a strong man, because only the scenario “man is leading, woman is led” will lead you to happiness (and, of course, will show the correct model of the family and your children).

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Fear of being alone

“But you are not 20 already, you are not younger. Girlfriends have already raised two children each, and you are all in girls, it's time to give birth, at least find yourself, and then they will sort out all ... blah blah blah ... " feast At first, you laugh at them in reply, then you nod your head: well, yes, yes, yes ... And over the years you wonder: maybe your aunt’s verb? Maybe at least some? So just do not stay alone. And you are already warming up, so that from a low start you can rush to the registrar with the first contented mum.

Why is it dangerous

A woman starts to see a suitable candidate in any man. And the craziest, in my opinion, option whentired of the ticking of the biological clock, she decides to have a baby FOR YOURSELF! She is unaware that by this step she not only sweeps away a lot of opportunities to establish a personal life, but also endangers the happiness of the child, who then absorbs all the poisons of an incomplete family.

How to break a vicious circle

First of all, you should not give in to the pressure of society, and make decisions on your own. We need to look for ways to establish personal life, not looking at age. Do not listen to those who offer you to lower the bar: the choice of a life partner must be approached wisely.

Passive waiting for her husband "at the stove"

After watching the TV shows and still believing in fairy tales, the woman sits exactly on the fifth point and expects her prince to find her. Hoping for a polygamous lady luck, she reminds those girls from the song who “stand aside, they are pulling their handkerchiefs”: she spends her whole life waiting until she is noticed, approached, invited ... But you can stand alone until the end of life!

Why is it dangerous

Sitting idly can be fraught with not only the fact that the chances of finding a decent man tend to zero. More dangerous is the loss of precious time, the only life in an irreplaceable resource.Plus, when you wait and do nothing, you really succeed - as it happens. It's like a paper boat launched into the river. Either he will swim all his life until he is soddened and drowned, or until some snag comes up to him accidentally, and he will permanently get stuck in her clinging “arms”. In the end, this is what happens: not life, but a complete ... snag!

How to break a vicious circle

Stop pulling handkerchiefs! We rise and go ourselves towards happiness. Imagine that your man is a ship in the night sea: he goes on the waves at random. You need to become a guiding beacon, so he noticed your bewitching light and gladly went to him.

Children (their presence or absence)

Often the presence of children from past relationships becomes an obstacle for a woman on the way to a new marriage. Lonely mothers like carry the slogan "I do not need anyone, I live only for a child!", But in the eyes of longing ... And they absolutely do not suspect that they did not notice dignity in the alleged lack.

Why is it dangerous

In their failures with men, single mothers tend to blame their children. But they do not realize the fact that if a man does not marry her, knowing about the children, then it is not they who are to blame, but she herself.In addition, as I have already said, children can adopt an unsuccessful family model (mother could be alone, and I can), which dooms them to failures in future relations.

How to break a vicious circle

In the presence of children there are many advantages. Children can make an excellent filter in the search for a new husband. And be sure that a man who will be delighted to have children, is aware of the responsibility and will be a wonderful family man, husband and father.

To give children happiness, think first of all about your own happiness. Just think: they want to see their mother happy, contented, loved, they want their home to be comfortable and easy. It is in such an atmosphere that wise people grow. It is in this light that the family becomes a positive example.

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Lack of faith in a better destiny

In every possible and impossible way, a woman brushes off happiness: “Who needs me at this age? I am ugly, unsuccessful, I do not know how to attract a man, I am not interesting ... But how can I marry a foreigner - I do not know the language, I can not leave the present life? All the worthy ones were taken apart! ”In general, a huge walking complex in the flesh, the victim of his own self-doubt.

Why is it dangerous

You cannot see it, but your half-ruined energy is transmitted outside: in your actions, words, gestures. Self-doubt from any swan makes an ugly duckling. Uncertain women feel discomfort in life and something like envy to self-confident. The result - longing, low self-esteem and negative attitude to life. What man will pay attention to such a pessimist?

How to break a vicious circle

Successful men love confident women for one main reason: it's easy with them! Therefore, they are looking for such. Identify the main complexes (write directly on the paper, so that they are more clearly visible) and begin to get rid of them first. Then formulate the main goals and plans to achieve them. Celebrate even the smallest victories and praise yourself.



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