Viral posts of children's punishments trigger parenting debate
This Mom's Viral Post About Parenting Will Inspire You To Let Go of Perfection
Parents—especially moms—are expected to do itallthese days, and social media only furthers the illusion that moms should be able to do everything while living a picture-perfect life. Just like many new parents, Constance Hall, a mom of three and blogger from Australia, was feeling overwhelmed after having her first child, so she turned to her dad for support, and asked him—how on earth did her nana do it with 11 kids?
Her father gave a simple yet insightful explanation, which Constance shared in this now viral . His response: "She wasn't given half the pressures I was." Her nana also didn't focus on keeping up with high expectations, but rather, she simply aimed to spend time with her children and enjoy them. These three things made all the difference.
This conversation led her to realize one, that moms experience far too much pressure nowadays, and two, all of this pressure put stress on both the momandthe kids. "So how do we do it, with all of the pressure we are put under," Constance wrote on Facebook. "Well a lot of us don't actually enjoy our kids, we are only half present for them all of the time due to the constant pressure to have everything perfect."
Amid trying to get everything done—going to the gym, answering emails, paying bills, cooking healthy foods, packing lunches, visiting the doctors, and coloring your gray hairs are just a few to-dos that Constance listed—moms begin to tune out their kids. "We are losing the time to be present the with our children, half listening to them, preoccupied, nodding along while our brains are thinking," she wrote.
Her epiphany was then confirmed by an exercise she did recently at a seminar. Attendees were told to get into pairs and share an interesting story with their partner. Half way through the story, the other partner was told to stop listening and do something else. After the experiment was over, Constance shared how the exercise made her feel: "Boring, embarrassed for not being able to interest anyone, unworthy, and insignificant," she wrote.
This led her to an incredible realization. "Is that what this busy life is making my kids feel?" she asked. This activity and the conversation with her father prompted her to realize that it's so easy to let one's to-do list and society's standards get in the way of having a healthy and loving relationship with your child, which is the only thing that really matters, after all.
Her post, which has racked up more than 50,000 likes and 12,000 shares, is helping parents from all over the world find both solace and a new outlook. "Oh that made me teary because I'm so bad at switching off mid-story with my kids," one commenter wrote. "Very true, [it] would hurt me if they or someone else did that to me."
Now, she wants to focus less on all the things that must get done, and more on enjoying her children. "I really care about my time with my kids and how they feel about themselves," she wrote.
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